Things keep on changing every day.

Nod.

Do you know what is going on?

Yes, she is getting worse.

Yes, the cancer is getting to be too much for her. It’s made her fall asleep.

Yes, the other doctor told us yesterday.

Do you guys usually go to church?

Yes doctor, but she hasn’t been for a long time because she’s been so sick.

Would you like a priest to come over.?

Yes, doctor, we have arranged for our pastor to come over.

Will he come with church members?

Yes. Doctor, can we please have a bigger room?

I’ll see what we can do. I’ll have to talk to some of my colleagues. I’ll do what I can.

Okay.

The things that have been making her uncomfortable are going to get worse. Her breathing is going to change. She’s going to get more sleepy. She doesn’t have much time left, she is dying.

Yes, Doctor, can we please have a bigger room? We are a big family and there are a lot of us who want to come in. Do you think you can help us doctor, please.

I will get onto it right away. In the meantime I’m going to review all of her medications. We want her as comfortable as possible. She’s had too much pain causing suffering.

Thank you Doctor.

You all take care.

It took a bit of negotiation and flexibility but the patient and family were moved into one of our bigger rooms. This allowed three generations of the family to spend the afternoon together with our patient. She died short hours later in the presence of her family.